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Thursday June 26th 2003 01:35 AM PST

I am very embarrassed of how awful my teeth look. Its not a secret that they are yellow as piss. So when i say to somebody "thanks for putting a great picture of me on your blog" that's what i mean. Its not fuckin rocket science. I am being sarcastic, and i am embarrassed of my physical appearance.

I say clearly that i do not like the way i look, and that my first reaction was to post a nasty comment to that effect. BUT my better judgment leads me to hold in something that would be a mistake to write and just get over it. I instead talk to the person privately and try to explain how i truly feel. When the person questions my feelings and goes as far to call me "vain", i then realize that my feelings are not being communicated. At this point i am not willing to try to argue my own position. I really don't feel it necessary to explain my personal feelings when i know they will be scrutinized and questioned. Its just a waste of my time. I end the conversation by saying this has already gotten larger than it should and that it is not worth the time to dwell on it. I explain that even though it did rub me the wrong way i will get over it.

I thought that maybe this could be the end of it.

Well its been opened for discussion. So now i'm going to ask a few questions of my own.

1) Because one person is not embarrassed about their own physical appearance, does this afford them the right to ignore others own feelings of self image?

2) When a person openly tries to explain their feelings, should it be the position of the other party to argue the validity of the feelings?

3) Am i being vain?

4) Does anybody fucking care?

5) Is anyone happy that i have come out of my "non-confrontational" shell and decided to deal with this bullshit head on?

6) Does anybody doubt for a second that this is nothing other than BULLSHIT?

Comments:

No, you're not being vain. Get the photos removed.

Posted by: Koganuts

i don't think your being vain either. just self conscious and there's nothing wrong with that. but i do feel that it is wrong that the yams is argueing the validity of your feelings. he's been known to do this in the past with others too. but dave, i don't think anyone is staring at your teeth. and in yams defense, i like his photo galleries of all of us. especially all of the ones documenting you guys having fun while i'm stuck in big bear. and i'm glad that you've come out of your shell.

Posted by:

This is all nonsense. Cant you just upload more photos of Racoon Crap? By comparision, your appearance won't look that bad.

Posted by: Anon

Ok, here are my answers to your questions:
1) No. As I said on my blog "Just because I have stupid, embarrassing photos of myself online, doesn’t mean everyone else is comfortable with having their embarrassing photos online."

2) No. Also as I said on my blog "I'm probably not as tolerant about that as I should be (or I don't maybe come across that way or something)"

3) From dictionary.com:
vain
adj. vain·er, vain·est
1. Not yielding the desired outcome; fruitless: a vain attempt.
2. Lacking substance or worth: vain talk.
3. Excessively proud of one's appearance or accomplishments; conceited.
I do not think you're excessively proud of your appearance or accomplishments, nor do I think you're conceited. I agree with Steve, you're just self conscious.

4) Yes we do, and so do you, so don't pretend that you're indifferent by trying to say this is trivial when you obviously were upset enough to make an angry post on your blog.

5) Whoever said you were "non-confrontational"? And posting this here is not dealing with an issue "head on," by the way. If you had a problem with me, or something I wrote, you should have talked to me about it, not aired it here. Regardless of what you think, my blog entry last night was not about you (which is why I said it wasn't directed at anyone, and why your name wasn't anywhere in my entry). I thought you complaining about your teeth raised a valid question in terms of what is the ettiquette or protocol in posting pictures of friends online, so I posed the question to get advice on what to do in the future. You are not the only one I have posted embarrassing photos of, after all, and others could be upset with having their photos online. Trust me, it was not about you, although you've now chosen to make it about you. I didn't make the entry to berate you, or to draw attention to you or your being self-conscious about your teeth (which by the way, nobody would have looked at if you hadn't posted this entry).

6) I for one do think this is bullshit. Its bullshit for you to assume I'd know you were hung up about your teeth (in all sincerity, I had NO idea you were self-conscious about THAT of all things). I think its bullshit that when you DID talk to me on the phone, you didn't just say "take the pictures down", cause I would have been more than happy to. I think its bullshit that you read my genuine question asking for advice and figured I was taking a shot at you. Finally, I think its bullshit that in all of this, you still have not given me any kind of a solution, just a problem. I mean, should I take your photos down? You haven't asked me to. Should I send them to you so you can whiten your teeth then repost them? You haven't asked me to do that either. Should I send photos to you for approval in the future? Should I just abstain from posting any more photos of you at all? You tell me, Dave, in the future, if I have a picture of you that I want to post, what should I do? Don't beat around the bush or be wishy washy like you were yesterday when we spoke, just tell me flat out when it comes to you, what should I do concerning posting photos online.

Posted by: Yams

you guys have way too much free time. if you spent as much time working on, say, a renewable, ecological energy source as you do crafting your responses over arguments about stupid shit, the world would be a better place. so get to it!

Posted by:

I want a car that runs on coon shit if you're taking suggestions...

Posted by: Jason D-